Most people, whether consciously or not, desire to be fabulous.
While fabulousness can mean one hundred different things, the universal misconception is that it is centered around one’s looks, social demographics or wardrobe. Sorry to disappoint, but you can buy all the Louboutins and Birkins your credit limit will allow and never, ever be fabulous.
Being fabulous is an intangible quality that exudes all others. This is not about redecorating your living room or what to serve at your next party, this is about being a fabulous person from within. So, instead of making some flimsy New Year’s resolution that has about a 10% chance of success, why not focus on just being a better person and if you have what it takes, become a fabulous person. So, how do you do it? Dig deep, for starters.
Love Yourself
All fabulous people love themselves. It is only when you learn to love yourself, that you can begin to change the world around you. No one is going to think you’re fabulous if you don’t think you’re fabulous. Start by paying more attention to self-critical thoughts and focus on your qualities. Know that you have infinite greatness within. You cannot take care of your family if you don’t take care of yourself first. Hang around likeminded people and steer clear of jealous, gossipy, phony people. They most certainly do not love themselves and that energy is like a boomerang.
Have Compassion
Having compassion for others means you are kind, thoughtful and probably an overall nice person. Doing something for others when it is self serving means you’re an asshole, not compassionate. Sadly, kindness and compassion are not teachable. Showing kindness to someone who can do nothing for you is one of the most rewarding experiences a person can have. Give when there is no public glory. Sometimes, all it takes is a smile to change the direction of the day.
Keep It Real
Fabulous people don’t pretend much. Honesty and sincerity should be used often but with a light touch. Telling your friend she’s fat and dropping your kids at school in pajama pants and a horrific bun are not “keeping it real”. Being honest about your narrative is. See the difference? Bad manners are the antitheses of fabulousness.
Take Risks
If you really want to live a fabulous life, you’re going to have to take some risks. The greatest things in life always happen when the outcome could fail. You have to try new things, meet new people and get comfortable with discomfort. Have faith in your risks. Prepare yourself that most people will not support your risks. Do it anyway.
Harness Your Fears
Fear is the biggest obstacle to achieving everything you desire-hello, that is fabulous! There is no such thing as someone who is “fearless”. Rather, those who appear fearless (and fabulous) have mastered the skill of harnessing their fears and breaking through them. This takes time, but will change your life immeasurably.
Don’t Hide Your Magic
Everyone has something interesting about them. But if you never socialize, nobody will lever know how fabulous you might be. You have to talk to people, listen to people and not look over their shoulder while they speak. Those people are awful and should be eliminated from your orbit. Engage people, even strangers. They have magic, too.
Confidence, Confidence, Confidence
All the traits that make a person fabulous are confidence based. Contrary to common belief, we are not born confident. Rather, it is a quality that is acquired through developing your mind, body and soul. If you are not confident, ask yourself why and improve that part of your life. It’s not easy, but it is very simple. Stay informed, healthy and grateful. Cockiness and arrogance are not examples of confidence, know thew difference.
Be Spontaneous
Someone who can never vary from their rigid schedule will never be fabulous. Uptight people, time to lighten up! Some of life’s best moments are when you do something unexpected. Take a last minute trip, skip the gym for an impromptu shopping session, go out for a drink on a Tuesday night. Just chill, for God’s sake. The ever-increasing world of Scheduled Lives is so not fabulous.
Have Some Substance
Well dressed, beautiful people are boring AF unless there is something of substance under all that Chanel. Hobbies don’t really make you fabulous, neither do your abs-even if they are fabulous. Helping others, having a passion, an interesting skill and being a part of a cause are examples of substance. If you don’t have any, find something that drives you and start there.
Live Enthusiastically
Is there any other way? Seriously, if you’re not living enthusiastically what the hell are you doing with your life? If you’re NOT excited about your life then you are not living your dream. Understand that you were meant to live a great life, you deserve to live a great life. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Like most matters of the heart, you’ll know what it is when you find it. Keep searching.
Now go have a fabulous 2018.
XO,
Courtney